happy cny

first day of the chinese new year. it is hard to escape from the house visiting tradition unless you are going overseas during this long holidays break. it can be quite tiring at time because practically i have to travel all around singapore. people dont live in the kampong style anymore. for example today, i took an hour to travel from cck to tampiness by car, along the PIE.

i used to be very excited about cny. shopping in town with friends to get new clothes, helping my parents to prepare for the reunion dinner and the best part is putting the snacks into nice oriental containers. however, the excitement doesnt seem to be there anymore as i grow older.

i am not interested to get myself tired out for cny. i do not need all the hype about cny. i only want to spend a quiet and cosy cny with family and friends. i just want to spend time to catch up with people whom i treasure and love me as much as i do. i hate to make small talks with people i only see once every year, or repeat their questions every year.

oh wells, get lots of ang baos!! happy chinese new year, pull your ears. =)

you dont have a choice

there is no complete truth to 'you determine your own destiny'. pretty often the environment, the situation you are stuck in, loved ones and money will pay a part in your decision making. so you wont be able to do exactly what you want initially. let's not talk about doing things that you like.

so what do you do when you are forced by circumstances? squat down and start to cry on the spot or maybe make a fuss out of everything and blame everyone except yourself for the outcome. no! although you are currently involved in a situation you dont like, you dont give up. why? simply because losing is not something you like.

and so you pull yourself together for the last time and tell yourself not to give up. it seems like a long and lonely journey ahead but your loved ones are always secretly cheering you on. never wallow in self pity because what you are facing now is not the end. there are many people who are fighting for the extra second in life out there and why should you give up on yours here?

you, fight on!

things that i hate about men

the world is made up of different individuals. i heard from a friend that aquarian is supposed to be at loggerheads with cancerian but my bestie is born on the 17July. i guess we dont really need to accept everything from books on how to build good interpersonal relationships wholeheartedly. seriously, it boils down to whether the other party is able to tolerant your flaws and accept you as a human being.

this group of people can get onto my nerves very easily. they are the group of people who loves to live in their own time. when things go wrong, they choose to stand right at the same spot for the longest time you can ever imagine. dont they know that time waits for no man? things dont go backwards like pressing the backspace button on the keypad. we move forward! they refuse to do anything to salvage the situation. they whine and live in self-pity. seriously, get a life! if you dont love yourself, you cant accept the same from others.

i cant say i am a super duper responsible person but you do earn my respect if you are willing to be responsible for your own actions. dont start to be defensive when others criticize you. it doesnt reflect good on you. others will just say you dont listen to advice. also, dont blame everything except yourself for a wrong. even if you are not the direct cause of the mistake, if you are put in charge of it, bear the responsibility. living at an age like yours, i seriously dont understand why do you still have to make them be worried for you? it just irks me more.

why am i starting the brand new year with such a hate-me entry? i saw what i shouldnt have. the cycle is going to start again. is it really that hard to make a clean, clear, definite, sharp cut from personal relationships? are you really that soft hearted to be taken in by the empty promises and sweet talk? i just have to tell you this, you never learn your lesson. good luck!

dont u just love it?

yes! this is the season to be fat because it is holidays after one another. first will be christmas and in approximately a week later, we will be welcoming the brand new year. there are things that i hate about this festive season but also things that i simply adore.

shop shop shop! that is probably one of the must-do thing. everywhere i go, i see people. not a single inch of space, shoulder to shoulder. i do not know that people can be that close to each other under forced circumstances. i am literally scared of crowded places because of the fear of the fainting spells. breathe in, breathe out, girl! singapore's air quality is not that bad.

a brand new year means time to get the junk out of my space. it is time to spring clean my room which i have not done. i simply do not have to explain myself because my closed friends will know how lazy i can be sometimes. however, this time round, hopefully it will be a major and fruitful project, or rather at least let the change be visible to all.

i dont know why but i always feel excited writing down my closed friends' birthdays in the coming year calendar. it comforts me by telling me that these are the groups of friends who will stick through thick and thin with me for another year. i am not alone! although some friends have been dropped out of the calendar naturally or by force, i have no regrets. it is part and parcel of life, so just embrace it.

i cant help but to feel excited about the holidays and the new year. the holidays are here to reward myself for enduring all the crap that has been happening so far. a new year signifies change and hope. let the past be history and keep moving forward. =)

why am i feeling this way?

why why why? why the hell am i feeling this way now? i am simply grumbling about it right now. i was given an option right from the start but i chose to pick the least favourite of all. am i stupid? this is just so unlike me to do such a thing. no wonder i am feeling so restless the whole day. worry that i will do or say something to ruin the whole thing and anxious that my facial expressions tell it all. oh please! just stop all these from happening and let me feel relieved at the end of the day.

away for almost half an month

taking a break from the notes. i cant believe that i have been studying for everyday since last last sat. i think i am crazy! i am not THAT diligent student. it is just that i leave almost everything to the last minute. this time round, it was due to the tight deadlines for projects and assignments towards the end of the sem. sucks! i am finding an excuse to justify myself. i hate this!

there are 3 things in life that i cannot tolerate. excuses, indecisiveness and grey area.

not sure if it is me or the influence of my secondary school cca, i cannot take excuses. if you had made a mistake, so admit it. why is the point of making excuses to avoid the punishment? it does not salvage the situation, instead it sabotages you because it gives others a bad impression of you. no time is always the common one heard. seriously, i dont believe in the phase no time. everyone in this world has equal share of time each day, 24 hours. if others were able to do it within 24 hours, why cant i? it just boils down to time management. so stop telling myself to push things back because i have no time for it.

given an option, i am sure there must be a preferred one over the other. dont tell me lame stuff like anything, i am fine with both. and the worst is to complain and whine about my decision at the end of the day. if you were really that smart in the first place, why did not u make the choice? i dont understand these people. make a decision, take a stand. is it really that hard for you to do that?

and so this brings me to my third most detest traits of people. i dont like grey areas although they often exist in life. black or white. take your pick. it is either right or wrong. giving others the grey area only add on to their burden and make them think even longer and harder. what is the majority? as long as it is more than 50 percent, can i consider it as the majority? or i should consider the majority when it is close to 100 percent. which to choose from?

why am i thinking of such things now when i am supposed to understand mathematical equations and formulas? back to the notes. =)

finally it is starting

they are finally ending. sigh of relief. this is not a break, just the start of another mugging season. not exactly looking forward, but not dreading it too. mixed feelings i guess.

i am loving my heartland bit by bit everyday. there is starbucks just near by house, like approximately 2 mins away if i walk and 1 min if i run. so it is a piece of good news. more fun! fish and co, thai express, subway, coffee bean, mof jap desserts. omg! i am loving every bit of this new place. hopefully it will last so that my life will be hip and happening. haha.

i finally found the perfect spot. actually i dont really find to look far for it. it is just right at my doorstep. i have been searching for it for a long time because it has not happened yet. it is just a matter of time. so i have decided to keep searching and fighting till i die. who knows, maybe the next step i make, i would achieve what i aim for.

just stay positive and look at the situation in many different angles. a problem right in front of me. i can choose to cry, whine and complain and push all blame to everyone except myself. all in all, i decide to give up. or a better option will be to motivate myself to try harder and ask. i want to choose the former and stay with it for the next few weeks. i want to be a winner and not a quitter.

yeah! let's bring it on now. =)

i am just like her

i did not tell you guys because i hate to see sympathy in your eyes

i heard this line while watching one of my favourites US dramas. i could totally feel connected to this character and it was clear why i like her to bits.

i guess i can describe myself as a time bomb. i dont really like sharing my inner thoughts and feelings with friends and family unless there is a need to or we are really very close. i dont see the need of making people to share my burden. but i think the ultimate reason is i hate to show my weak side to others. without sharing, everything is kept to myself, accumulating bit by bit within. who knows when will i explode and really leave this place?

nobody likes to be weak in comparison to others. i do not like to give up when things get tough. i hate to cry when i am faced with a problem because to me, crying means i am feeling helpless and it sucks. someone told me this before when i was pushed to my limits in secondary school, you cant cry in front of them. if you do, who is going to lead? simple, yet straight to the point.

i guess this is just my way of controlling extreme emotions.

i am not wonderwoman

i am disgusted by the fact that i have approximately 2 weeks to clear 2 projects. out of these 2, the prof claimed that we can finish one within 2 days. of course you can do it because you are the prof and we are the students. add to the crowd, 2 new assignments from that stats prof who doesnt announce any uploads and secretly hope that all students check their email and ivle everyday. have more fun, 2 presentations not done yet. to top it out, 2 end of sem tests next week.

typing this out makes me realise i really have lots of work to do for the next 2 weeks before i go for my study break. this is a classic example of squeezing every single drop of water out of us. dont the prof communicate or at least lunch together because they seem to be some pathetic souls, camping in their offices, staring at the screens and plotting new ways to kill us all? well, i think they did a pretty decent job here.

2 more weeks and probably a short break like a few hours and off to mugging for the big EXAMINATIONS. yeah! all the way.

xiaoyee's 23rd birthday

24 oct 08 is the day i had been looking forward to for the past few weeks. thinking of ways to make it special to surprise him. i want to make it the best because it is my first time celebrating his birthday alone with him.

we did and ate everything he loves. watching tropic thunder (damn! it was hilarious), eating the impossible dim sum and sun with moon! it was a rather private and quiet birthday. not exactly the typical birthday when you have groups of friends gather together and giving you their best wishes. i kinda like the former. at least i dont have to entertain the guests with a few sentences and hope they will feel at home. so just put away the social entertaining.

yeah! finally you are 23-years-old. hope you had fun and enjoyed your birthday. love you. =)

just another night

this is one of those nights which i missed. just sitting in front of the TV with my mum, chatting. occasionally i would laugh at her because she usually fell asleep in front of the TV and claimed that she wanted to watch TV. tonight, it was a serious talk.

she could not see my efforts. was it i did not try hard enough or she did not understand? i did not explain much because she could forget something i told her a few weeks ago, so why bother. i just sat there and listened.

although she did not say it directly, i could sense she has high hopes on me. something like to be as good or even better than my sister. she would not approve any arguement on this. stress? definitely, but i have to take it as a good motivation. i have always told myself that i must do well in the future so that i could provide her a good retirement. she would not have to work this hard anymore. now, how should i define 'well'?

put the serious stuff aside. it is only the weekend.

throat infection

today was the most horrible, painful test i had ever taken. my health is failing me recently. i thought all was well last week but no! the throat infection is still there, leading to this fever i am having now. gross! i think it is time for me to purge out all the toxics in my body, probably readjust my body alarm to a slightly healthy one, and yes, move my body a little bit more.

this failing health. boring. sucks. maybe i am not handling things well within my control. maybe i should learn to let things go sometimes. maybe i should learn how to relax. damn.

i am going to be a real good girl, camp and lock myself in my room, rest and take my medicine. i am going to get my pink health back in no time. =) just wait and see.

travelling

dont u just love travelling programmes on TV? you can go around the world at the comfort of your home. looking at interesting places and learning new facts about people and culture that you never realize. ultimately, making a decision to go on a tour when you are free someday.

yes! that is what i am feeling exactly when i was watching my lunch time programme just now. they went to germany and i was attracted to every sight, colour and flavour of the place. that is one of the countries i really want to visit. europe! a totally different experience from asia.

i always wanted to go backpacking around the world, something like around the world in 80 days. bt seriously, will i ever have the financial ability and time to do so? living in fast-paced singapore, i can hardly find time to catch my breath. bringing the necessities, my laptop to write about all my wonderful experiences and my handphone for emergency matters. travelling from one stop to another, embracing everything with no plan in mind. i just want to know more about everything.

if and only if i can put everything on hold and go on an amazing trip, i may or may not be a better and happier person. guess i am tired from school and dying for a break. i have been sick of school since last week and this mid term break isnt helping much. damn. guess the break will come eventually after next week.

i guess it is only through tough times and i will appreciate the people around me. unfortunately i fell sick on the last day of the mid term. it totally ruined our mamma mia movie trip. really super duper sorry because i know you are a hard core fan of movies, espcially musicals. must be the unhealthy meals i had been having for the past few weeks. if not, i seriously couldnt find the source of my virus infection unless it was the bacteria i handled with at lab the day before.

cheering me up with cleo magazine, constant reminders to take my medicine regularly, running around spore under the hot hot weather to get my laptop fixed, getting dinner and lunch, today, for me when i was sick. well, all i have to say is a big big thank you with a big big smile and big big hug. these will always remind me why i love you so much. =)

mum was back over the weekend. very much i would want to spend sometime with her but i had to kindly reject her vivo shopping offer because i had to stay at home because i wasnt fully recovered yet. i wanted to watch some tv programmes with her and laughed at her at the end of the show for sleeping all those while. i miss those moments with mum at home. i really do miss her a lot.

start to appreciate my loved ones. =)

jayden's 1st mth

cannot drink the mango juice in the refrigerator ah. dad bought that for mum

haha. yup, i received that wink from my sis and couldnt help it but to smile. today is jayden's 1st mth celebration and of course i bought him a present, my mommy hippo and me clothes.


my family whom i treasured


happy parents!


my eye candy is sleepy

no idea

ok. i have completely no idea what had happened to my yummi-cious candy skin. i guess the owner must be mad at me for not leaving his/her name under credits and decides to ban me from using it anymore. and so, i am back to my long-last-must-do-thing-online, blogskin hunting.

if and only if everyday could be like this. carefree, feeling that time never ends, the sun never sets. i get to surf the net a little when i am sick of the books. meanwhile, waiting for my new addiction, gossip girl, to load. and when my mind feels that it has rested enough, it is back to studying. no pressure, no constraints. will this ever make studying more enjoyable and productive? i doubt so.

i am glad that i still have a close group of girlfriends and boyfriends with me all these years. i cant help but to feel proud of them when they achieve something in their respective areaa. even if it is just a smile from the prof, it happifies me. dont get the wrong idea, i am definitely not an easily contented girl. it just feels good when i know my friends are doing well, or at least enjoying what they are doing now.

ok, that's all for today. maybe it is time to kick my addiction.

sth bad is brewing

it was supposed to be a happy event but things arent exactly going in the right direction anymore. things have developed to this stage and i know it is pointless to point the finger at anyone now. however, my gut feeling tells me that the root problem has always been around.

i understand you are eager to patch things up, to make it be like before. but can you please discuss with the others invloved before making the decision in their place? nobody likes to be forced into doing anything or anywhere they dun like. dont think everything you said or did is always right.

i understand you dont have the full ability to do what is needed then why didnt you voice it out in the first place? look at what had happened because you refuse to share. why be afraid of him? you know yourself best. even if you are going in the opposite direction, so be it. as long as it is justified, what is there to be scare of? now, we are talking about gender equality.

i understand your frustrations at how things are becoming now. but what is the point of raising your voice at her, and pushing all the blame to her? it is just not fair! not imposing your stand on us. if you ask me, i think everything begins with you. you are the one who answered the call and decided without considering her situation.

i am not helping in this anymore. i am just going to do whatever i can to help her.

something is wrong

a grey gloomy sky is what i get for the past few days. i am unsure if i am the kind of person whose mood changes with the weather but i am definitely feeling the same way as it is now. i miss the sunlight to brighten up my every morning. i want the happy cheerful morning when i have to drag myself out of my bed but not the rainy mornings when i just want to lie in bed.

there is so much negativity storing inside me now. i dont know where does it come from? i dont know what has happened to me. i can still laugh and joke around with friends but the grey cloud lingers above me. i am unknowingly or knowingly shutting myself out from him.

maybe tomorrow i will find my way home.

my 1st nephew!!!!!

yeah!!!! my sis has finally given birth today to a beautiful baby boy on the 18 aug 08. haha. this isnt exactly my first time being an aunty because some of my cousins actually have kids now but this time round it is different. he is my sis's son, definitely a lot closer to heart. haha. i am so going to love him.

went to visit my sis after school today and had a shock of my life when i saw her. her face was like pale white. omg! imagine all the pain and the amount of exhaustion she had to experience to give live to this baby boy. yes, mothers are the world's most noble person. love all mums, especially my mum and sis.

i hope she recover well and fast and yes, my nephew is going to be a fine young man. =)

national day 2008

yesterday was national day and this year round, i din spend the day in front of the tv, wishing i would be at the grand stand, watching the fireworks display. =) wells, i went for the ndp preview so i pretty much had watched the parade. so it was alright for me to give the parade and mass display a miss since i knew what would be happening. and so, dabai and i went to marina bay to watch the fireworks.

that wasnt the original plan but we changed it at the very last minute. he had no choice but to agree to it because his girlfriend wanted it. haha. i think generally girls just love fireworks. they were short-lived but that magical moment when they went off in the dark sky against the cityhall landscape seemed like a life time. they were just superb. the feeling was beyond words to have fireworks exploring right behind my own eyes. love it lots!!!

hoping to test my assumption was right, i contacted pee to check if she would be interested to catch the display. and i was right! it was great watching fireworks with good company. =) i remembered last year there was a fireworks event after the national day. i wondered if the same event will be back this year.

tomorrow is a new sem and a new academic year. embrace everything that comes along with an open mind and determined heart. i know i am going to make it through with you beside me. jiayou!!! the WAT friends are finally back in spore. woohoo!